Military Deployments and Child Custody in California

GrenadeThe stress of being a military member deployed overseas to a hostile environment can be compounded by worrying about children left behind in the care of others.  The joy of finally coming home can quickly turn into a nightmare if an ex-spouse refuses to return a child.  This subject was the basis for a recent ruling from a California Court of Appeal. In the case entitled In re Marriage of E.U. and J.E., both of the parents are military members.  When they divorced, the court awarded joint legal custody to both parents, with the father having primary physical custody.  Anticipating the possibility of deployments for both parents, the court included provisions in the final order that if one parent deployed, then the other parent would assume the role of primary parent.  The order further provided that when the deployment ended, custody would revert to pre-deployment status upon return of the deployed member. As fate would have it, the father deployed and while he was away the mother filed for and was granted a temporary custody order.  When the father returned, he commenced a long and arduous legal battle to regain primary custody of his child as originally ordered. Most recently, a California Court of Appeals found in the father’s favor and he regained custody of his child. Interestingly, during the course of the proceedings, the California Legislature passed a statute requiring the return of a child in a situation such as this to the primary custody holder.  Time will tell whether and to what extent this law will be challenged by those claiming a situation has changed and returning the child to a parent recently returned from deployment is contrary to the child’s best interest. If litigation is necessary to protect a child’s best interest, then it should be commenced immediately. At the Law Offices of Judy L. Burger, we will persistently pursue the best outcome possible for you in your divorce or custody proceedings.  Judy L. Burger is known for her aggressive representation of clients in high conflict cases in and around the San Francisco Bay and Sacramento areas.  If you are a parent facing a custody dispute, call us today to learn more about how we can help.  Call (415)293-8314 in the San Francisco Bay area or (916)631-1935 in the Sacramento area, or contact us online via our confidential inquiry form.

In California You May Be Considered the “Baby Daddy” Without Being the Baby’s Daddy

PregnantCelebrities and the sometimes twisted lives they lead make for fabulous tabloid fodder – entertaining perhaps, but not usually educational per se. On the contrary, the current soap opera surrounding Kim Kardashian, Kris Humphries, and Kanye West provides the perfect scenario to learn about one aspect of California law most people may be unaware of. Kardashian and Humphries married on August 20, 2011.  Seventy-two days later, they split up and Humphries claimed the marriage was a fraud from the get-go.  In legal parlance, Humphries claimed grounds for an annulment.  Kardashian, on the other hand, wanted a divorce and denied any fraud on her part.  Leaving the intervening details to the tabloids, suffice it to say that as of January 2013 Kardashian and Humphries are still legally married. Which brings us to the twist in this story:  Kim Kardashian is pregnant and it’s no secret that the baby was sired by Kanye West.  Nonetheless, under California law, as long as Kardashian is married to Humphries, Humphries will be presumed by law to be the baby’s father.  Like other states, California has anti-bastardization laws, also known as parentage laws, which state when a mother is married, her newborn child is legally presumed to be her husband’s child. In other words, Humphries will be deemed to be the baby’s legal father unless he disputes parentage through the court system.  He will have all the rights and responsibilities of a father to include visitation rights and the duty to provide child support. Surely Kardashian and West can put together enough money for diapers and daycare, but you never can tell with some folks.  Humphries may want to take steps to protect his good name, especially since he claims he was never legally married to begin with. At the Law Offices of Judy L. Burger, we will persistently pursue the best outcome possible for you in your divorce, custody, or other family law matter.  Judy L. Burger is known for her aggressive representation of clients in high conflict cases in and around the San Francisco Bay and Sacramento areas.  If you are a parent facing a custody dispute, call us today to learn more about how we can help.  Call (415)293-8314 in the San Francisco Bay area or (916)631-1935 in the Sacramento area, or contact us online via our confidential inquiry form.

Five Mistakes to Avoid When Getting Divorced

Caution1This article should be filed under the heading, “Things clients should ask, but don’t.”  Granted, getting divorced is rarely a walk in the park, so it is very understandable when clients are too stressed to think clearly and ask all of the pertinent questions.  That’s one reason we welcome phone calls and emails between meetings.  An informed client is an empowered client, and mid-divorce is a good time to feel empowered.   So, without further ado, here is a list of five mistakes to avoid when getting divorced.
  1. Rushing.  It is natural to want to get it over with, but the decisions you make now may affect you and your children for the rest of your life.  Take your time and consult your lawyer to help you consider all of the potential ramifications surrounding a settlement before you accept any offer from your soon-to-be ex-spouse.
  2. Taking legal advice from your stylist.  The easiest divorce is a complicated matter, and it can get even more complicated when you add children and significant assets.  The average non-lawyer does not know what you ‘should’ get in a divorce, and more than likely does not know everything about your circumstances. Let your well-meaning friends offer emotional support, then change the subject.
  3. Forgetting that equitable does not mean equal.  A couple’s assets and liabilities will be equitably divided based on the individual circumstances of the case, including each party’s expected earning capacity, the value of separate estates, individual income needs, and so on.
  4. Forgetting to consider tax consequences.  We are not a tax law firm, but even we know that alimony is deductible for the payor but child support isn’t.  Rather than agreeing to pay additional child support relative to extra curricular activities or non-covered medical expenses, opt to pay a little alimony for a period of time not to exceed the number of years until the children reach adulthood.  Vice versa if you are the probable recipient of alimony – ask for extra child support instead.  Of course, you should consider all of the potential tax consequences and while we are not experts, we can help  you find one.
  5. Hiring a second-rate lawyer or deciding to forego a lawyer altogether.  It should go without saying, but say it we must.  You should not represent yourself in a divorce any more than you should perform surgery on yourself.  You wouldn’t cut out your own tumor or have it done at Wal-Mart.  Yes, I’ma lawyer and this tip may seem self-serving, but skimping on a lawyer  during your divorce is one mistake you will wish you never made.  Find someone with the right combination      of experience, tact, and tenacity to get the job done right the first      time.
And finally, a bonus tip.  If I’ve heard it once, I’ve heard it a million times: “If I knew then what I know now, I never would have married him/her.”  It’s worth the time and money to hire an attorney before you get married to discuss how community property rules work in California and what you can expect to be the issues if your potential marriage does not work.  While we can’t predict whether Mr. or Mrs. Right will turn into Mr. or Mrs. Crazy, we can explain basic divorce law and recommend the best options for protecting your assets. At the Law Offices of Judy L. Burger, we will aggressively pursue the best outcome possible for you in your divorce or custody proceedings.  Judy L. Burger is known for her tenacious representation of clients in high conflict cases in and around the San Francisco Bay and Sacramento areas.  If you are a parent facing a divorce or custody dispute, call us today to learn more about how we can help.  Call (415)293-8314 in the San Francisco Bay area or (916)631-1935 in the Sacramento area, or contact us online via our confidential inquiry form.

Decision to Stay Married Saves Kobe Bryant Millions

Bryant basketball The recent decision by Los Angeles Lakers star Kobe Bryant and his wife Vanessa to forego divorce in favor of working out their differences is significant for several reasons. Most importantly their children will not have their lives turned upside down by the division of their family, and will continue to have Mommy and Daddy raising them together. Hopefully the decision was not financially motivated, but we would be remiss if we didn’t also point out the fact that Bryant will save millions of dollars in child support and spousal support. Based on his reported income, Bryant could have been ordered to pay $1.3 million per month in payments to Vanessa if she were awarded primary physical custody. Additionally, since the Bryants celebrated their tenth anniversary in 2011, their marriage is considered by California law to be long term. What this means is that all wages earned, and all items purchased since the day the exchanged nuptials would likely be considered community property and divided between the two accordingly. At the Law Offices of Judy L. Burger, we will aggressively pursue the best outcome possible for you in your divorce or custody proceedings.  Judy L. Burger is known for her tenacious representation of clients in high conflict cases in and around the San Francisco Bay and Sacramento areas.  If you are a parent facing a divorce or custody dispute, call us today to learn more about how we can help.  Call (415)293-8314 in the San Francisco Bay area or (916)631-1935 in the Sacramento area, or contact us online via our confidential inquiry form.

What If I’ve Been Married More Than Ten Years?

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In some instances, ten years is the benchmark for a marriage to be considered a long-term marriage.  California follows this general rule, along with the Social Security Administration and the U.S. military, which can make it worthwhile to stick it out a little longer if you are close to your ten-year anniversary.  (And vice-versa if you are more likely to be required to pay spousal support.) In some cases, a marriage shorter than ten years may be deemed a long-term marriage.  As with many decisions in family court, the judge has broad discretionary authority and his or her decisions are likely to withstand appeal if evidence was presented at trial to support the judge’s decision. California law (Family Code Section 4336(a)) says that where a marriage is “of long duration,” the court retains jurisdiction indefinitely after the divorce is completed, unless the spouses agree otherwise.  Retaining jurisdiction means the court may continue making decisions about matters between the ex-spouses, and can reevaluate original orders and modify them if the facts justify a change.  In other words, unless alimony was waived by agreement, a court can reopen a case and award alimony later based on a change in circumstances, even if alimony was not awarded in the original proceedings. The Social Security Administration also considers ten years to be a long-term marriage, which means a spouse could be eligible for derivative Social Security benefits if he or she remains unmarried at retirement age, depending on the former spouse’s earnings. If your spouse is an active duty member of the military and you were married ten years, you may also be eligible for retirement pay and other continuing military benefits. At the Law Offices of Judy L. Burger, we will persistently pursue the best outcome possible for you in your divorce or post-divorce proceedings, whether you need to demonstrate the other spouse’s faults, or defend such claims.  Judy L. Burger is known for her aggressive representation of clients in high conflict cases in and around the San Francisco Bay and Sacramento areas.  If you are a spouse facing litigation, call us today to learn more about how we can help.  Call (415)293-8314 in the San Francisco Bay area or (916)631-1935 in the Sacramento area, or contact us online via our confidential inquiry form.

My Ex-Spouse Refuses to Work – Is There Anything I Can Do?

Broke Adjusting to divorced life can be difficult, especially when struggling to make ends meet.  A child support order won’t pay the bills if the other spouse is not paying accordingly.  Some spouses who are ordered to pay child support or spousal support immediately commence the underworked and underpaid strategy.  Thankfully, California provides a mechanism for separating the vocationally disenfranchised from the lazy. If you believe your ex-spouse is voluntarily unemployed or underemployed and refuses to submit to a vocational examination, you can petition the family court to permit the examination.  The process is initiated by filing a petition and showing good cause to support your request. If the results of the examination show your ex has the capacity to generate earnings, the judge can impute income for purposes of calculating child support or spousal support.   This means the judge can determine a fictional amount of income the ex should reasonably be expected to generate. An experienced family law attorney knows the tactics used by parents who refuse to pay child support, including changing jobs frequently, moving from state to state, working for cash and childish defiance of the court order. At the Law Offices of Judy L. Burger, we will persistently pursue the best outcome possible for you in collecting back child support. Judy L. Burger is known for her aggressive representation of clients in high conflict cases in and around the San Francisco Bay and Sacramento areas. If you are a spouse facing divorce, call us today to learn more about how we can help. Call (415)293-8314 in the San Francisco Bay area or (916)631-1935 in the Sacramento area, or contact us online via our confidential inquiry form.

In Deciding Custody, Current Possession Matters

children on beach_edited-1 Statistics compiled by Divorce Peers tells us in two out of three cases children stay with their mother in the marital home when couples split up.  The vast majority of couples (sixty-five to eighty percent depending on the source) either agree at the outset how custody will be arranged or settle the matter during the pendency of their divorce.  About sixty percent of couples agree for the mother to have primary physical custody. Theoretically, courts abandoned the ‘mother is best’ mindset years ago, but it has taken time for the idea to sink in.  In our experience, a mother is still more likely than a father to be awarded primary physical custody of the children if a case goes to mediation or trial, but fathers have steadily gained ground in the last twenty years.  More fathers who want to be an active part of their children’s lives are fighting for that right. The ultimate goal in a custody proceeding is to determine what is best for the children.  A child needs the love and attention of both parents as long as they are fit to be parents.  In deciding what is best for the children under California law, judges will consider many factors, including:
  • The ages of the children,
  • The emotional ties between the parents and the children,
  • The ability of the parents to care for the children,
  • The health of the children,
  • Any history of family violence or substance abuse, and
  • The children’s ties to school, home, and community.
Practically speaking, family court judges will also consider where the children have lived since the couple separated.  For instance, if a father voluntarily left his children with their mother in the marital home and the children have lived with the mother continuously since the separation, a judge may decide the mother is the best primary custodian. Why?  Because a father who holds his children’s best interest above all other matters would not leave his children in a bad situation.  Since he left his children with their mother and allowed them to reside there continuously, she must be a fit and suitable person to care for the children.  In other words, the father’s actions support the mother’s claim that she is the best parent. The point is to take care not to make the other person’s case for them.  If you believe the children should live with you, then take steps to get temporary custody at the outset. At the Law Offices of Judy L. Burger, we will persistently pursue the best outcome possible for you in your divorce or custody proceedings, whether you need to demonstrate the other parent’s faults, or defend such claims.  Judy L. Burger is known for her aggressive representation of clients in high conflict cases in and around the San Francisco Bay and Sacramento areas.  If you are a parent facing a custody dispute, call us today to learn more about how we can help.  Call (415)293-8314 in the San Francisco Bay area or (916)631-1935 in the Sacramento area, or contact us online via our confidential inquiry form.

What is Putative Marriage in California?

Runaway Bride A putative marriage is one where the couple intended to enter into a valid marriage, but for one reason or another, the marriage is legally void in fact.  There may have been a legal barrier to marriage, such as one of the parties was already married to someone else, or unbeknownst to the couple, the official who performed the marriage ceremony was not legally authorized to do so. Sections 2250 – 2255 of the California Family Code explains a putative spouse’s rights when the couple breaks up.  Rather than a petition for divorce, one or both parties must file a petition entitled “In re the marriage of ____ and ____” and the petition must state that it is a petition for a judgment of nullity of the marriage. Once the marriage is found void or voidable, then the Court may proceed to divide property, award spousal support, and award custody of the children in a manner substantially similar to standard divorce proceedings as though the couple were legally married. At the Law Offices of Judy L. Burger, we will persistently pursue the best outcome possible for you in your divorce or quasi-divorce proceedings, whether you need to demonstrate the other spouse’s faults, or defend such claims.  Judy L. Burger is known for her aggressive representation of clients in high conflict cases in and around the San Francisco Bay and Sacramento areas.  If you are a spouse facing divorce, call us today to learn more about how we can help.  Call (415)293-8314 in the San Francisco Bay area or (916)631-1935 in the Sacramento area, or contact us online via our confidential inquiry form.

Does Common Law Marriage Exist in California?

Honeymoon Common law marriage is a matter of state law, so the requirements for creating a common law marriage and whether a marriage exists at all vary from state to state.  Under California law, it is not possible for a couple living in California to create a common law marriage, regardless of how long they live together or whether they refer to each other as husband or wife. Nonetheless, California courts may recognize a common law marriage that was created when the couple lived in another state.  For instance, in Alabama a couple may be considered married under common law if they cohabitate for a period of time, and if during that time they hold themselves out to the public as husband and wife.  If the couple then moves to California and decides to break up, a California court may entertain divorce proceedings for the couple in deference to the valid common law marriage created in Alabama. California’s policy of not allowing common law marriages to be created in California is somewhat balanced by California’s stance on “palimony.”  The word palimony is a misnomer because it is not really the equivalent of alimony.  Rather, a claim for palimony is based on a breach of contract theory and pursued as a civil action rather than in divorce proceedings.  Essentially, a person being left behind in a breakup may be able to pursue compensation under a breach of contract theory if he or she can prove that a valid agreement existed between the couple for ongoing financial support. A full discussion of palimony will be the topic of a later post, so check back soon to learn more. At the Law Offices of Judy L. Burger, we will persistently pursue the best outcome possible for you in your divorce proceedings, whether you need to demonstrate the other spouse’s faults, or defend such claims.  Judy L. Burger is known for her aggressive representation of clients in high conflict cases in and around the San Francisco Bay and Sacramento areas.  If you are a spouse facing divorce, call us today to learn more about how we can help.  Call (415)293-8314 in the San Francisco Bay area or (916)631-1935 in the Sacramento area, or contact us online via our confidential inquiry form.

The Kids Are Grown and Baby Boomers Are Itching to Move On

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A recent study conducted by divorce lawyers shows Baby Boomers are divorcing at increasingly high rates.  The trend is partially attributed to the fact that divorces among those nearing retirement has become more socially acceptable than it was 10 or 15 years ago.  Likewise, dating among 60-70 year olds is becoming more common and socially acceptable.  It also helps that the kids are not only grown, but may have divorced and remarried as well. Bowling Green State University did a recent study on “gray” divorces, and found that the national divorce rate among adults ages 50 and older doubled between 1990 and 2009. In 2009, more than 600,000 people in that age group divorced, accounting for roughly one out of every four divorces, the study found. Interestingly, it is the Baby Boomers who are financially stable who are more likely to get divorced, because they believe they can live independently of the other and do what it is that makes them happy. If the time has come for you to move on, the Law Offices of Judy L. Burger will put our experience to work to pursue the best outcome possible for you in your divorce proceedings, whether you need to demonstrate the other spouse’s faults, or defend such claims.  Judy L. Burger is known for her aggressive representation of clients in high conflict cases in and around the San Francisco and Bay Sacramento areas.  If you are a spouse facing divorce, call us today to learn more about how we can help.  Call (415)293-8314 in the San Francisco Bay area or (916)631-1935 in the Sacramento area, or contact us online via our confidential inquiry form.